WALL FLOWER and WHEEZER GEEZER

or Should I Stay or Should I Go?

I should emphasize up front that I was 69 years old at the time of writing this essay.  Definitely over halfway through my life, but I have good genes, meaning people in my family regularly live into their 90s, I’m the healthiest of the lot, and now actuaries are predicting that 15% of people my age will surpass 120, so I figure I’ve got many decades ahead of me.  At the same time, I know I’m no spring chicken and that most young folks consider me to be ancient – perhaps worthy of seeking some wisdom from, but over the hill in regard to consideration as a sexual or marital partner.

As someone with a nearly-invisible but not-entirely-insignificant online presence, this presents me with dueling dilemmas:

·         Dilemma One:  Despite the undebatable truth of my first paragraph, no shortage exists of attractive young women who come at me in a way that is overtly sexual, overtly supposedly seeking a long-term relationship, or at the very least hinting that one of these is their motivation.  Tempting as it is to believe that these temptresses are specifically targeting me because I’m a professed polygynist, I have more than  enough evidence that such vixens target any male senior citizen who doesn’t present as being dead from the neck down.  For young women focused on striking it rich by grifting off lonely old men who would love some young tail, we geezers are easy marks.  The majority consistently reveal themselves as up to no good within a couple good days of chat (don’t make the mistake of letting them rush you into giving them phone numbers or email addresses unless you’re horny for having your identity stolen), during which time they’ll disclose a crypto scam that’s a sure thing to make one wealthy beyond his wildest dreams, or an unfortunate and ill aunt in Ireland or Nigeria whose only effective treatment is solely available in the United States.  It’s tempting to conclude that every woman half one’s age is insincere about asserting that “age is just a number,” but I’m also well aware that, statistically, a not-insignificant number of women simply have to consider hitching their sails to significantly older men either because they recognize the much-higher success rates of age-gap marriages or, on the other hand, just to have a prayer of avoiding spending the last few decades alone with their ‘rescue’ dogs.  Therefore, the one question is, should I tell every young woman to take a long walk off a short pier the moment she first expresses interest?  Or should I temporarily tolerate the many grifters for the purpose of perhaps hitting the jackpot?

For nearly 2 decades, my openness to adding an additional woman to our family has been strictly structured around biblical principles: I’m convinced that God intends polygyny for men who have a heart for taking care of more than one woman – specifically for creating covenants with women who would otherwise be uncared for: widows (and their orphaned children), wrongfully-divorced women, repentant divorcees, and women who would tend to be ‘leftovers,’ eschewed by men convinced they have to limit themselves to one wife at a time (which propels them to ensure that their solitary partner will be tremendously alluring).  Such women exist in abundance in our cultures; they’re generally unaware of how lopsidedly they outnumber single men, and their demands are typically also ridiculously unrealistic, so it’s an uphill climb when a man makes himself available to bring another woman into his household; however, my experiences on dating sites demonstrated that a surprising number of women give it at least a little consideration.  When they do so, they tend to automatically assume I must be desperate enough to be an easy mark in regard to relationship negotiation, but – mostly because I’m committed to doing the Will of my Father – I am (and other men like me are) the opposite of desperate; in fact, it’s much easier for me to be patient than it is for a single man, because I already have a beautiful wife who provides me with earthly delights – and who also keeps me busy with everything any woman puts on a man’s plate related to how dependent every woman is on men.  Which leads me to the associated . . .

·         Dilemma Two:  In the process of vetting potential additional wives, should a man like me who believes in polygyny according to scriptural principles (a) emphasize a humble spirit dedicated to obtaining a wife from among the least likely women to find mates, which inevitably requires the spirit of a patient teacher to determine whether each woman one encounters has even minimum potential to shed the shackles of feminism and become a respectfully-cooperative helpmeet rather than a demanding hindrance?; or (b) more selfishly keep the focus on finding a woman with the best combination of positive characteristics without concerning himself with her potential prospects?  In essence, should I elevate generous altruism or competitive value-seeking to the top of my priority list?

These dilemmas are far from strictly academic or intellectual exercises.  Almost every single woman who approaches me online initially claims to be expressing sincere, legitimate interest – whether that be in consideration of matrimony or for some other semi-defined perceived benefit of being associated with me.

And this isn’t really even a matter of an accelerating experience of feeling like time’s a-wastin.’  While young women are typically uninterested in ‘settling’ for a 69-year-old geezer, single women within 5 years of my chronological age outnumber single men 15-to-1.  No, it’s not a matter of scarcity that drives me to ask these questions or face these dilemmas.  I’m mainly just getting tired of the generous amount of time and energy I’ve been putting into teaching culturally-hypnotized women as part of the process of determining if they’re even capable of rehabilitation.

I’m beginning to conclude that it’s a losing battle . . . and that What Time It Is in our culture is predominantly time for men to wake up, for men to be red-pilled, and for men — with a willingness to do without women in their lives if women aren’t willing to get with the program — to not only cease being dominated by women but insist on being treated with grateful, cooperative respect.  Perhaps it won’t for many years or many decades be What Time It Is for women to grok that they don’t have the leverage they believe they have, as well as that only a very small percentage of them will ever be anything but miserably lonely as they pursue their ultimately-meaningless careers with fancy titles.

I’m clearly not a typical MGTOW, but I have no problem comprehending why a great many Men are completely Going Their Own Way, choosing to do without female partners rather than submit to the entirely-ludicrous requirement that they be treated like dirt just for the privilege of being held more accountable than the females who wrongfully believe that they’re the ones ‘settling’ for these men.  I’m also not suicidal but get it why male suicide rates are increasing.  To be a man is demanding, and the rewards for doing so have predominantly disappeared over the last half century – perhaps chief among the disappearing rewards being the potential to acquire a wife who will appreciate what a man provides for her rather than be an eternally-unsatisfied shrew who harps about bull crap like ‘male privilege,’ ‘The Patriarchy’ or ‘equality’ (when she means ‘equity,’ or “Am I getting what I’m entitled to?”).

I’ll give you readers an example of what inspires my contemplation of these dilemmas: not long ago, I blocked a woman less than half my age after giving her weeks of the benefit of the doubt.  To her credit, she never directly asserted that she was interested in a romantic relationship with me, and she wasted only about a week before responding in the negative to my inquiry about whether that was her intention, but she continually proclaimed that she wanted to be my “friend” while refusing to identify any basis on which we would have a friendship other than my being available to engage in “balanced discussions” of potential unidentified future topics.  She combined this with a devilish mixture of sharing provocative photos and chastising me for supposedly only caring about her ‘body,’ the most recent one being of her in a nearly-sheer bikini that emphasized her nipples, left nothing to one’s imagination about what was ‘covered up’ in the bottom, and would be banned anywhere but at a nude beach — accompanying yet another message chastising me for “only caring about [her] body.”  My reaction before terminating our interactions included writing: “Guilty as charged!  And you know full well that that’s the purpose of presenting yourself that way.”

Her reply continued the pattern of combining (a) making multiple vague generalizations about how women are supposedly held back by men with (b) criticizing me for making generalizations about the specific effects feminism has had on human beings and our culture (generalizations Good? or generalizations Bad?), so I devoted myself to refraining from pulling any punches.  Included in my final response was an extended description of how men and women depend on each other for sex and reproduction but women predominantly depend on men for everything else, as well as that female ‘independence’ is strictly a myth destroying our culture from the inside out – and this: “If you had even a modicum of the amount of respect you should have for your elders – and, yes, especially your male elders – you wouldn’t expect me as a 69-year-old man to behave as if I’m a eunuch when I’m shown photographs of you on Truth Social, Twitter and Telegram that present you in sexy poses.”  And this: “Of course you want mutual respect and understanding, but what you’re failing to recognize is that you demand respect and understanding for yourself while you haven’t even begun to contemplate what it would really mean to respect and understand all the men you claim you don’t need.”  I also asked her to back up her assertions that (a) the only reason men were responsible for 99.6% of all historical inventions is because men have held women back from being inventive, and (b) women have made many significant contributions in science, technology, mathematics, arts and social progress.  I’m betting 98% of you can guess her sole example of a groundbreaking female scientist.  I wasn’t surprised that she cited the co-founding discoverer (with her husband) of radioactivity but also note that the main female scientific mind she could name was from over a century ago back when women were supposedly prevented by men from being inventors.  [Instead, once again an exception further proves a rule.]

In the end – because the stream of 2-10 women weekly showing up in my DMs shows no evidence that it’ll cease until the Internet does so – I’m left with the question that each of you is invited to address: should I continue the effort to assist women in understanding where their misguided feminist ideals are leading them as part of an intentional effort to altruistically assist them in reorienting their lives to avoid dying alone and in poverty with their dogs and cats?  Or should I just get almost entirely selfish for myself and my already-existing family – and give up on the class of women more convinced that they deserve Mr. Perfect than aware that they’re predominantly going to end up with Mr. Invisible?